Today we are talking about more than business! Today, we are talking about how you show up in your life.
This is a new theme I wanted to add into the blog because as moms we lose so much of ourselves. This is something that I work with moms on throughout an entire year!
We WANT to show up 100% in all areas of our lives but we struggle to do so and my mission is to help bridge that gap. Throughout the year we focus on creating a life that will support what you want to create.
One piece to that puzzle is the outer appearance.
The topic of the hour is makeup!
And it is more than just vanity.
Do you take care of yourself? Do you only do what needs to be done or do you go above and beyond for yourself? Do you go above and beyond for your kids? What about your partner?
Or do you not have the time?
As women we are held to a higher standard. We have to work harder and do more especially as moms.
I never believe that you should do something for someone else unless it aligns with what you want and benefits you.
One of those “things” is makeup.
Yep. How we put ourselves together is important whether we want to admit it or not.
It affects our confidence and it affects our relationship with our partner. It shows our kids that we care for ourselves.
Yes. A little mascara can do all of that!
But it shouldn’t be done just because society tells us to. In fact, that will create more of an obligation than enjoying the journey.
Part of what I do is help moms show up in all areas of their life and that is why today we are talking about makeup.
It is not about comparing. It is about doing what is right for you and how you want to show up.
So if you want to wear makeup everyday why aren’t you?
Is it time? Is it because you are unsure how? Is it lack of motivation?
Let me preface this blog post by saying that I wear makeup for a lot of reasons. It works internally and externally for me. I wear it because I like it. It gives me confidence. It covers up the fact that I almost always have bags under my eyes. It is one of many ways that I treat myself like a queen. This is one way that I show up for myself!
It is also one of the many ways that I show up for my partner. He would never tell me I have to wear it… this goes with what I mentioned at the start. Doing something out of obligation is a no-no but doing something that is aligned with you and benefits you is perfect!
On a DAILY basis I put myself together and part of that is wearing makeup.
For me, I wear full on glam makeup. I either wear a full face or nothing. There is nothing in between for me and typically the days I have nothing on is because my face needs a break.
And I am okay with that.
I have been wearing makeup since I was a pre-teen and it was never because I needed it. In fact, I wear makeup because I enjoy putting it on!
I have no guilt for wanting to look nice and doing my makeup everyday. No. Guilt.
And you shouldn’t either.
For you it may be mascara or lip gloss. Maybe makeup isn’t your thing and it could be getting out of those yoga pants! Wearing your hair down once a week!
Pick something because this lesson is applied in all areas of your life. I want you to learn to show up for yourself so you can show up in all areas of your life with more impact!
Either way, you shouldn’t feel guilty for wanting to uplevel yourself.
Before I share more I remember a gal I worked with at one of my first jobs. She had a quote on her whiteboard that read “dress for the job you want not for the job you have” and it always stuck with me.
This quote applies to so much more than your career. It can be applied to all areas of your life. If you want to live a life of freedom what would that look like as you were getting ready?
Why wait to live like that?
In a few simple steps you can start shifting in this area of your life! If you know your ideal day would have you wearing mascara and you would have the perfect blow out as you worked in your business and played with your kids, why wouldn’t you start include pieces of that lifestyle now?
Being able to do my makeup is important to me. Again, it is one way I treat myself like a queen. And, in the past, when I quit wearing makeup because I got too busy or let others tell me not to wear so much, I saw the negative impact in all areas of my life.
My confidence dropped. My productivity decreased.
I quit taking care of myself in some of the most basic ways and everything was affected including my marriage!
When you take care of yourself the world works better.
This is around the house.
With the kids.
With your partner.
With your business.
When you take care of yourself you are filling your cup first. There are a lot of ways to implement self care but today I wanted to speak directly on makeup because I feel as moms we can easily let this slide.
Yes, I know that not all moms wear makeup or want to wear makeup.
It is a choice. One that I do choose to make.
Because I want to be my best. I want others to have my best.
And for me, that is partly done by doing my makeup. Every little thing I do for myself adds up!
Think back to a time when you didn’t feel confident? Were you wearing sweats… did you have your hair thrown back and no makeup on?
Now think back to a time when you felt like you were a total badass! A time when you were so confident and nothing was in your way! What were you wearing? Did you have makeup on and the perfect outfit? Did you have one hell of a hair day?
When you dress down it affects your subconscious which means when you dress up you are telling your subconscious that you are worth it!
So, how do I manage to do my glam makeup face most days of the week even with kids.
I accomplish this in a few different ways.
To start, make you a priority. I cringe when I hear moms say they are not a priority for themselves and that has to change!
Why, in today’s society, do we wear killing ourselves by burning ourselves out as a badge of honor?
Of course you feel overwhelmed and tired all of the time! You are giving yourself to everyone around you and not taking care of yourself.
So boom. I make myself a priority. This includes a full self care ritual and getting enough sleep but also doing things for me like wearing makeup.
It gives me an instant boost!
Again, I feel better the moment I start the process.
Now I also know that the time it takes me to go full on glam is about half the time for someone who doesn’t wear makeup everyday. My hair and makeup takes less than thirty minutes. I can get ready in under an hour.
That takes practice.
That also took boot camp showers to realize I don’t really need a lot of extra time 😉 (***side note – part of my self care ritual is taking baths with lots of extras in the water)
So knowing that you need to make yourself a priority is a no brainer but there is another step!
You have to make the time!
This doesn’t mean I am waking up 5 hours before the kids. Nope.
I have a morning routine that I follow… but guess what… I have four kids…
So even though I schedule in the time for myself on a DAILY basis sometimes that schedule goes out the window…
And on those days I still manage to get myself ready.
I can do this because I empower my kids.
Again, this isn’t about overnight fixes. Creating a life you love is about creating sustainable change. I have always empowered our kids to do things on their own. I am not talking about cooking and cleaning (although they do) but I am also talking about being able to play alone without my constant supervision.
I can sit down and in ten minutes have some self care time while the kids play.
It doesn’t have to look like a night out or four hours in the bath!
It can be getting your nail polish on while the kids are playing upstairs in their room.
I am still within hearing distance and I know what is going on.
But, I empower them to play alone. They don’t need me.
Yes, they use my name like a swear word some-times. They have been known to walk right past their dad to bug me in the bathroom…
But, I still empower them. Because it will make a bigger difference for us all!
If you knew that spending 10 minutes on yourself in the morning could increase your confidence, self esteem self worth and increase your productivity because you feel ready to conquer your day would you do it?
I hope I hear a hell yes!
It is about making yourself the best you can be. Taking care of yourself so you can give to others!
If you are ready to start making yourself a priority I want you to click here and schedule a time to chat with me. I want your 2017 to be the best year it has ever been!